While the subject of using sex toys may still be relatively “taboo”, you may be surprised to find there are a number of health benefits associated with having your own pleasure cove.
In fact, having regular orgasms can be beneficial to both your mental and psychological health, and that’s just looking at the solo benefits.
When using sex toys with your partner you can help reduce body and sex shame while creating stronger communication and vibrant sex life.
But before we get into all of that, there are some basics to cover before picking up your first toy (or adding to your collection)
Read on for the ultimate guide to using and buying sex toys.
The History Of Sex Toys
Fun fact: the original vibrators can be traced back to the early 1800’s. However, they weren’t intended to fill the gratifying purpose they now do. On the contrary, they were intended to “heal women”.
Early medical literature believed that the womb was actually able to roam freely around the woman’s body, which would result in a form of hysteria in the woman.
This “hysteria” was used to explain multiple symptoms in women including cramps, aggression, hysteria, and even nymphomania.
The “solution” came in the form of “the Pulsocon”, a device similar to a table massager that was intended to help treat the hypothesised hysteria.
While the idea was way off, and yes, more than a little sexist…ultimately it was one major step towards more pleasure for women everywhere.
There’s also some speculation that various renditions of sex toys can be dated back to the days of Cleopatra.AB Advanced ColumnParagraph
Legend has it that the Queen enjoyed a “Gourde of Bees” as a form of genital stimulation.
It wasn’t until the 1970’s that the vibrator as we know it today was introduced, fresh on the heels of the “sexual revolution”. Since then sex toys have been produced in a number of forms and sizes, bringing new forms of pleasure to men, women, and couples.
While the use of sex toys may have gone “mainstream” there are still some double standards in the world of marketing and media.
For example, in 2010 MTV refused to advertise the new vibrating trojan condoms unless the word “vibrating” was removed. However, countless ads about erectile dysfunction are run on a daily basis.
Little by little, the public is becoming increasingly more “woke” when it comes to sexual pleasure and the numerous ways to experience it.
The Benefits of Using Sex Toys Alone
There are a number of benefits and reasons why both men and women should indulge in the solo use of a sex toy. One primary reason, is the psychological benefits, particularly for those who have suffered some form of sexual abuse.
Those who have experienced sexual abuse, often experience feelings of shame and guilt surrounding their sex lives. This can be detrimental to one’s self-esteem and future relationships.
Fortunately, the use of a sex toy can allow both men and women to re-explore sexual sensations on their own terms, being able to stop and start as they feel comfortable.
With enough practice, it may help reduce the mental walls that limit sexual relationships with a partner.
Sex toys also mean a higher volume of orgasms with a stronger intensity. Combine this with the fact that research shows a direct correlation between the big O and stress relief.
This, in turn, means less inflammation in the body and a lower likelihood of physical conditions. More orgasms also mean your body releases more serotonin, also known as the “feel-good” hormone. This leads to lower rates of depression.
So, what about the physical benefits of sex toys? Well for one, enjoying yourself with a sex toy vs. with a partner removes the chance of getting pregnant or sexually transmitted diseases.
A brief sex toy session before bed can also help those struggling with insomnia, as research has shown that orgasms can help relieve sleep problems.
Repetitive orgasms also have the same effects as kegel exercises, helping women with urinary problems, childbirth, and further sexual pleasure down the line.
The Benefits of Using Sex Toys Together
Think sex toys are just for solo action? Guess again. More and more couples are bringing sex toys into couple time as a way to help encourage their bond. There are a number of ways in which couples may benefit from the use of sex toys.
For one, they can contribute to foreplay, making getting into the mood much easier. They are also a great way to spice things up, especially for couples that have fallen into a “sexual rut”.
Sex toys are also a great solution for couples in which early ejaculation may be a problem, as it can help the woman reach orgasm at a faster rate.
Sex toys can also be viewed as an additional kinky hobby for couples to enjoy. Shopping for new toys, bringing them home as gifts, or even wearing them out on date night is a great way to keep the chemistry going.
Don’t forget the fact that couples that have sex more often have also been found to be less likely to break up, by increasing intimacy and levels of commitment.
Many couples view sex toys as “some extra hands in the kitchen” allowing them to give more pleasure to their partner than they would be able to do one their own.
All in all, it’s a great way to keep clear and honest communications in your relationship while ensuring everyone is satisfied.
In fact, studies have found that men with higher cortisol or “love hormones” triggered by sex were less likely to cheat.
Finding the Right Sex Toy for You
When shopping for a sex toy it’s important to remember that no two toys are built alike. In fact, there are millions of sex toy variations to choose from, so how do you find the right sex toy for you?
First, it’s important to know the best way to achieve orgasm. There’s no one method to achieving orgasm and for many, it comes down to a matter of anatomy.
Research finds that the closer the proximity of a woman’s clitoris to her vaginal opening, the easier it is for her to reach orgasm. This means some women can reach orgasm through penetration while others can only have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris.
This will help dictate which sex toy will be the most pleasurable for you.
It also helps to know where and when you will be using your sex toys. For example, you may need a more discreet sex toy if you plan on using it while travelling then you would one that will sit in your bedside table.
If you’re looking for a sex toy for couples use, try looking at some sex toy based pornography together first to get a better idea of what would turn you both on.
The beauty in sex toys is that you can always learn as you go, adding on to your collection as much as you like.
What to Know Before You Buy
In addition to knowing which type of sex toy you’ll enjoy the most, it’s wise to favour sex toys that are simply better for your body.
This is as simple as looking for the “body-safe” label which means the sex toy was made using non-porous materials like silicone or glass. Keep in mind there are a number of manufacturers claiming their toys are body safe when they really aren’t,
Which is why it’s wise to do your homework before making a purchase.
You may also want to partner your sex toy purchase with a good lubricant that can make the experience more enjoyable while providing relief from the “rubbed raw” sensation.
You’ll also find that there are countless sex toy bloggers that will give their unbiased review on a sex toy. This includes whether or not they are water-resistant, how easy they are to charge, and whether the price is worth the performance.
Many sex toy vendors also have a comments section on their products page where you can get an idea of other users experience.
Finally, remember to keep an open mind. Sex toys are a bit like partners, you may have to try a few out before finding the “right one”.
Just because a sex toy may be hyped up (like the Rabbit a la Sex in the City) it doesn’t mean it’s necessarily the toy that will do the trick for you.
Caring for Your Sex Toy
Once you’ve found the right sex toy for you it’s important to take the right steps to keep it clean, especially if you’re using it with multiple partners.
If you’ve taken our advice and have opted for a non-porous, “body-safe” sex toy then there’s a very low likelihood of an STI occurring. Still, it’s in your best interest to clean your sex toy after every use.
Many sex toy vendors will sell a special soap to get the job done. However, if you don’t want to purchase a specialty soap you can use any non-scented body soap to keep your toys clean. You can then let it sit on a dish rack to dry, just try to remember to put it away before company arrives.
If you are using your vibrator with multiple partners it may also help to put a condom on them. This isn’t entirely necessary if you’re doing a good job of keeping the toy clean, but it’s likely to give your partner greater peace of mind.
You should also be sure to check out the sex toy prior to using it the first time. Give it a good glace to make sure it doesn’t have any cracks in it, stains or noticeable damage.
We also highly recommend giving it enough time to fully charge, as nothing is more frustrating than having a sex toy die right before reaching your “final stop”.
Taking the Next Step
Ready to take your first step towards using sex toys? Then it’s time to do your homework boys and girls. Check out blogs, message boards, or talk with your partner about what type of sex toys they may want to experiment with for the first time.
If you are feeling a bit too intimidated to walk into a sex shop alone, invite your partner to come with you or order online. You’ll find that there are countless options that fit a wide variety of preferences.
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